It’s official! I’m a terrible blogger. I was doing well posting twice a week but that didn’t last long. I’ve been off my game for a while. First I had writer’s block, then I got sick, and most recently I had jury duty. I haven’t been able to get back into the swing of things. But enough excuses. I’ve had something on my mind that I want to talk about.
As I get older and more aware, there are more and more societal norms that blow my mind and not in a good way. One of the things that I’m currently disturbed by is society’s desire to deny the power of certain things, particularly our words. This year, I absolutely need to change the way that I think and speak. I struggle with a negative attitude and I speak negatively. I’m not sure why, but in this culture, speaking negatively is the norm and I never thought anything about it. People who speak positively are considered odd or in some cases, conceited. We’ve been taught to deny the power of just about everything but especially our words. So I want to be part of the change both for myself and for the people around me.
I’ve recently become aware that far too often I speak death over my life and sometimes other people’s lives. I tend to expect the worst when it comes to achieving my goals, potential relationships, other people in general, etc. I find myself speaking bad things into existence. I fully believe that my negativity attracts negativity and that I have to change that myself before positive things will come into my life.
I’ve come up with a plan.
Step 1: Awareness
I started by trying to become more aware of my thoughts. Once I started paying attention, I was surprised by how often negative thoughts crossed my mind. I was also surprised by the fact that I was thinking almost the same few negative thoughts over and over again.
Step 2: Blocking the Path
The problem with attempting something like this is that you are basically reconfiguring your brain. I was thinking the same thoughts over and over because I had created neural pathways in my brain with these thoughts. So I hope to disrupt those pathways by changing my thoughts when I notice a negative one.
Step 3: Create a New Path
Once I stop a negative thought I need to replace it with something. I came up with 3 affirmations that I can use to replace my negative thoughts. The affirmations are:
- God has a plan and purpose for my life and will provide what I need to achieve it.
- People of influence are always working on my behalf.
- Everyday, in every way, I am getting better and better.
Step 4: Solidify the New Path
Speaking of affirmations, I thought that they would be the perfect way to change my neural pathways since repetition is probably the most important part of changing your brain. I’ll use the same affirmations from step 3 for now. The idea is to add these affirmations to my morning ritual. I also thought that maybe I could add them to other areas to make them more effective. I’ve decided to improve my handwriting and to learn to write with my left hand. I was ambidextrous as a child until my school demanded that I choose one hand to write with. Writing these affirmations over and over with both hands has to help create solid neural pathways. They may not have every letter of the alphabet but I love “killing two birds with one stone” as they say.
It should be noted that I am not a neurologist, a psychologist, or any other such trained professional. That means that I really have no idea what I am doing. I’m just going off of all of the articles I’ve read over the years. This may or may not work. It’s worth a try though.
Have any of you ever tried something similar? How did it work out for you?