Hi everyone! I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving to those of you in the U.S. and celebrate. I took an unexpected break during the holiday week. I just had too many other things going on. But we now return to our regularly scheduled programming.
I wanted to expand on my last post about My Journaling Journey and talk about one of the most healing journal entries I’ve done so far, Dear Me Letters.
I got the idea from Youtube. Lots of Youtubers were making videos about what they would say to their younger selves and it really drew me. I sat down and thought about the times in my life that were the most difficult and wrote down what I wished someone had said to me at the time, what I wish I had known, and in some cases openly acknowledging the reasons that people did what they did.
It turned out to be the best thing I ever did not only for healing but for closure as well. One of the lies that people tell you about closure is that whoever hurt you has to give it to you. I’m not sure I really realized that’s what I thought until going through this exercise. I never expected to have closure because I know that the people who had hurt me, didn’t think that they had done anything wrong, so they were never going to apologize. This exercise showed me that I had bought into this lie, changed the way I view closure, and gave me my power back.
As a proponent of journaling, I believe that introspection is vital for growth. It forces you to acknowledge the things you have been avoiding. Introspection gives you a better understanding of yourself which in turn allows you to better understand others. For example, I experienced some abuse in my life, and when I forced myself to acknowledge that the people who abused me had at some point been abused themselves, it became almost impossible to hold a grudge. I knew their pain better than anyone. I also knew that they were suffering more than me because I was confronting my past and they were still running from it. How could I not forgive? I firmly believe that most other people could benefit from this if they are completely open and honest with themselves.
There isn’t a right or wrong way to do this. Just sit down with a pen and paper and tell your younger self what he or she always needed to hear. Just remember, it’s what he or she needed to hear, not what he or she wanted to hear.0